On Car Wrecks and Hate Speech: Moving Through Shock

One night many years ago, I was home reading on a quiet suburban street when a car engine fired violently and roared down the hill,  transmission screaming and gears grinding. Frowning, I set the book down just as the sharp squeal of tires turned into the unmistakable sound of the car rolling; its glass shattering and metal … Continue reading On Car Wrecks and Hate Speech: Moving Through Shock

How Do We Feel Safe In an Unsafe Place?

      I drove to work today bathed in the thick scent of cheap cologne. It was the smell of violation and it made my stomach lurch. This morning I opened my car door to find the contents of my console emptied onto the seat, my homemade cds rifled through, my cheap sunglasses examined … Continue reading How Do We Feel Safe In an Unsafe Place?

I Wouldn’t Want You to Think….

I have a secret. I’ve been told to keep quiet about it. Not that I didn’t already know that I should. After all, she said, you wouldn’t want them to think... It is true. I wouldn’t want you to. Here’s the deal: My mind is broken. In several ways, but today, the worst part is … Continue reading I Wouldn’t Want You to Think….

Enter the Dragon….Again

Personal power isn't something we give up all at once. It is chipped away at, little by little, by circumstances and people and illness and a whole slew of other things until one day we realize what has happened. Or don't -- plenty of people never, ever realize they've given up their power at all.